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It's Not You

How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People

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By: Ramani Durvasula
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REDISCOVER WHO YOU ARE AFTER YEARS OF INVALIDATION.

Dealing with a narcissist is hard. One day their confidence and charisma pull you in, the next day they gaslight, wreck your self-confidence, and leave you wondering what you could have done differently. Clinical Psychologist and narcissism expert Dr Ramani is here to help. Drawing on more than 20 years of studying, teaching and helping people navigate the challenging landscape of narcissism, you’ll learn how to:

  • Spot the tell-tale signs of a narcissist
  • Confront toxic cycles
  • Protect your energy
  • Create realistic boundaries
  • Reclaim and embrace your true self

Packed with expert tips and detailed advice, this book will equip you with the tools to stop blaming yourself, regain your power, heal, and take back your life.

©2024 Ramani Durvasula (P)2024 Penguin Audio
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“A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships, helping them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships.” - Jay Shetty

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Recommended reading for everyone!

One of the only books tackling narcissism from the victims point of view. Very well written and easy to follow, full of practical and helpful advice.

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Everything. The accuracy is amazing!

It's changing my life. I still struggle to process all the information but I start to have hope that I can be better

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Insightful and worth the credits.

I bought this so I could better understand the impact of my friend's vulnerable narcissistic mother and why she kept entering narcissistic relationships. I now get. I'm going to buy her a copy of this for Xmas. Check out Dr.Ramani on Lisa Bilyeu's Women of Impact podcast, that's how I first found out about the book.

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Thank you Dr Ramani!

To everyone reading this book - please know that you are not alone. I hope that this book can start a movement….know your truth, know your worth, find yourself!

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Insight and support

Amazing book to support survivor’s journey in understanding the path of healing within and out of a narcissistic relationship. Explores grief and the possibilities of rewriting our narrative as people in our own right. Well worth being read twice.

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Her determination to get the message across

An essential listen for anyone in an abusive relationship, you’ll learn what to do to regain your true identity

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Genius

A must read. This book is simply genius and dr Ramani never disappoints. Highly recommend.

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A great re-framer

A great narrative, with many relatable stories and inspires hope for a way through the future at your own pace.

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One of the best books I've read on narcissist abuse.

So insightful, validating and chock full of helpful advice and approaches for healing and rebuilding.

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The constant rhythm of the story telling and its alignment with the main argument

I have been listening to Dr Ramani's youtube videos but listening her reading from her book is another experience. The overall content of the book "It's Not You" is convincing and those at whom the book fucuses can see themselves in it. It feels like a biographical account of your inner feelings. At least it made me feel that I am not delusional or crazy.
Thank you Dr Ramani, you are doing a meaningful work for humanity. More power to you. 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼

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