Episodes

  • BPD Triggers Explained & Why They Are So Crazy-Making

    BPD Triggers Explained & Why They Are So Crazy-Making
    Nov 23 2024
    BPD Triggers Explained & Why They Are So Crazy-Making

    BPD triggers are explained and why they are so crazy-making. What you really need to know about BPD triggers that so many don't realize. What is the core of impossibility with BPD triggers? Why are BPD triggers central to endless lack of taking personal responsibility or accountability that is so crazy-making? BPD triggers are affecting you and part of how you as a partner, loved one, family member, of someone with BPD are losing yourself. You must stop care-taking for the person with BPD in your life. Stop trying to get the person with BPD to see how their triggered dysregulated emotion is hurting you because they just don't get it!

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    17 mins
  • What is BPD Transient Paranoid Ideation?

    What is BPD Transient Paranoid Ideation?
    Oct 27 2024
    What Is BPD Transient Paranoid Ideation?

    What is Borderline Transient Paranoid Ideation? What does it mean? How can does it manifest for people with BPD and how can you recognize it and understand its scope and effect on you? Why does this trait (number 9) along with how it drives BPD splits to devaluation cause so many BPD Breakups and so much heartbreak for people who loves someone with Borderline Personality Disorder?

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    29 mins
  • Borderlines Just Aren't That Into You The Emptiness of Idealization

    Borderlines Just Aren't That Into You The Emptiness of Idealization
    Oct 15 2024
    Borderlines Just Aren't That In To You & The Emptiness of BPD Idealization

    Borderlines just aren't that in to you, Codependents. The incredible emptiness of BPD idealization takes a long time to understand because it felt so great and felt and was too good to be true. BPD idealization just as BPD devaluation isn't about YOU. It's about who you represent unconsciously to un-treated person with Borderline Personality Disorder. You think you can do better, give more, understand more and do it differently and that it will make a difference - Nope! Codependents also often believe that they are so to blame for why people with BPD act out, act in, punish, as you walk on the impossible egg-shells. No matter what you, as a Codependent try to do differently, promise, change, fix and so on - NONE OF IT will work because you are insignificant (for who you really are) to the Borderline.

    For the Borderline, it's all about the Borderline. You are just the "object other" that they blame. They don't actually ever get to know who you really are as you lose yourself more and more to their lost selves as they seek to use (unconsciously often) to just survive. There's no excuse for what they do to you in their attempts (all about them) to just survive, seeking identity through you but not ever seeking to truly KNOW you!

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    22 mins
  • You Can't Give Borderlines What They Need They Don't Want It From You Anyway

    You Can't Give Borderlines What They Need They Don't Want It From You Anyway
    Oct 15 2024
    You Can't Give Borderlines What They Need They Don't Want It From You Anyway

    Codependents can't give your Borderline what he or she needs. People with BPD really don't want what they need from you anyway. It's a lose-lose situationship. People with Codependency can't help a partner, or any loved one with BPD, you lost yourself trying, you don't get your needs met. And you can't satiate a person with BPD and the more you try, and try to love them, the more you will punished for your love and care. Codependents need to unlearn childhood woundedness and how it is repeating in all your externalizing out and endless focus on someone with BPD and on Borderline Personality Disorder itself. What about you?

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    25 mins
  • BPD Devaluation Introjected Now Is Codependents' Responsibility To Stop Internal Re Wounding

    BPD Devaluation Introjected Now Is Codependents' Responsibility To Stop Internal Re Wounding
    Oct 15 2024
    BPD Devaluation Introjected Codependent Responsibility Stop Internal Re-wounding

    BPD devaluation and damage is introjected by Codependents. People with Codependency have a responsibility to stop internally re-wounding themselves internally. People with BPD damage people with Codependency who try to love them. Once you know what is happening, or what happened it is your responsibility to get into therapy and out of the relationship to break the betrayal bond and to learn how to stop over-focusing on the your Borderline Ex. It's so important to get out of denial and to stop abandoning yourself.

    Codependency denied only exacerbates the internal critic that continues to internally re-wound your inner child and createsand continues your own inner critic to judge you so harshly as likely you were judged in childhood and by your BPD Ex.

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    59 mins
  • BPD Discard Codependent Fantasy Pissing Into The Wind of Cognitive Dissonance

    BPD Discard Codependent Fantasy Pissing Into The Wind of Cognitive Dissonance
    Oct 3 2024
    BPD Discard Codependent Fantasy Pissing Into The Wind of Cognitive Dissonance

    BPD discards (final or not when unknown) fuel codependent fantasy and leave people with Codependency essentially pissing into the wind - as if that would be any reality of "taking a shower". These relationships ruptures often ending over and over again, also can be likened to the title of Judge Judy's book, "Don't Pee on My Foot and Tell Me it's Raining" Trying to continue in the
    Codependent fantasy as this commenter I respond to does (with quite a twist near the end) means that in the cognitive dissonance of it all, the intermittent reinforcementof the still not broken trauma bond, so many with Codependency, on/off partners, Ex's in a limbo place as well continue to actually "piss into the wind" in a fantasy illusion that to do wo would mean you have taken a "shower".

    In a relationship with an undiagnosed and/or untreated person with patterns of or with BPD being stuck in cognitive dissonance trying to figure out the Borderline, continuing to abandon yourself, perhaps as this commenter, while believing a desperate delusion that his Ex is getting closer to recovery or somehow will is the most agonizing height of so much pain and all of its rumination that
    you feel like you just can't stop obsessing on.

    See if you relate, at least in part, to this commenter and his torment of Codependent denial and not really understanding BPD while at the same time he truly pisses into the wind as if he awaits an actual shower.

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    2 hrs and 5 mins
  • BPD NPD Who is The Person Behind The Idealization & Love Bombing?

    BPD NPD Who is The Person Behind The Idealization & Love Bombing?
    Aug 25 2024
    BPD NPD Who is The Person Behind The Idealization & Love Bombing?

    So many people who have been in a relationship with someone with Borderline Personality Disorder or BPD with Co-Morbid Narcissistic Personality Disorder are caught in a trauma bond ruminating and trying to figure out who is the person behind the idealization and love bombing when there isn't a "real person" inside at all, only a false self.

    The intermittent reinforcement within the trauma bond with someone with BPD or BPD/NPD keeps Codependents stuck in circles of (often misinformation) trying to give their own explanations or
    offer up erroneous ones or misinterpretations taken from perhaps listening to or reading too many contradictory sources online.

    The person you fell in love with doesn't exist. The person behind the idealization and the love bombing is the false self that protects the lost self in Borderlines and Narcissists.

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    23 mins
  • BPD Breakup or Discard Identify Your Codependent Part of The Dynamic To Heal

    BPD Breakup or Discard Identify Your Codependent Part of The Dynamic To Heal
    Aug 8 2024
    BPD Breakup or Discard Identify Your Codependent Part of The Dynamic To Heal

    BPD Breakup or discard is so painful and so confusing for so many people
    who have, but may not realize it, Codependency. Getting into therapy and
    going no contact is the way to identify your codependent part in the dynamic
    and to heal. Choose to no longer stay stuck in excessive obsessive focus on
    the Borderline and what they did, why they did it because that focus will
    keep the trauma bond in tact. You need to break that betrayal bond in order
    to heal.

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    47 mins